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On the one hand, I strongly believe people should work to solve their problems instead of running from them. On the other, I'm wondering when is the time to say "it doesn't work".

I accepted a position which was a clear step up from my previous role. The tasks are great, I love what I do and I do it well.

At the same time:

1. My boss seems not to like me on the personal level. For me personally, it doesn't play much role whether I like people I work with. It's enough that they are professional (reliable, communicative). For him however it seems to play a role. He subtly accusses me of mistakes I have never committed. He insists on me doing things one way and when I do them, he subtly tells me it was a mistake to do them like that.




2. The company is quite conflicted. It's not possible to avoid conflicts with other depts. My boss always tells me what I've done wrong, never takes my site although objectively I didn't do anything wrong and can prove it. Some people in other depts see me as a threat from my day 1 and they accuse me randomly of things.



3. He's decision-averse. When I ask him to intervene in situations which prevent me from working, he doesn't. Projects are stalled for weeks because he doesn't approve the budget.


4. I have the feeling the quality of job doesn't matter. (I'm in a technical field). What matters are his feelings and his feelings are subjective and not based on what I do or don't do.


5. My boss' expectations are crazy given our resources. It's as if I was said to cook a big dinner for 10 people with 2 apples and some carrots. It's simply not doable.


6. He doesn't praise me if I manage to do things that are considerably more than what could be reasonably expected from me. I've managed to have some successes already. Instead of praising me, he criticised the way I got there, i.e. by taking decisions. He wants me to work the way he works - by waiting for things to solve themselves on their own but also gives me goals that are simply incredibly ambitious and which I could never reach just by sitting down and not taking action.

What I've done so far:

• I always try to deliver results first. Even if resources are scarce or there are problems. I don't run to him with every problem. I talk to people, try to get additional resources, work myself crazy hours. I educate myself how to automate things and optimise processes to be able to "close the carrots" to feed all the people. I'm proactive.


• I've always tried explaining, objectively, what happened to him when serious problems come up or if I believe some situation can result in a major conflict. I consult him on my major decisions.

On my situation:

• I will have difficulties finding another job on this level


• I've been with the company for several months.

I feel growingly exhausted, starting dreading going to work and feel my efforts aren't paying off.